The nuclear family is short-hand for the hetero-patriarchal monogamy – heterosexual couple with man dominant and in exclusive possession of the chosen female – the number of assumptions and conditions that it requires demonstrates its own unnaturalness.
The Patriarchy did appear in history before the idea of private land and property, but it died out because it had no powerful, long-term benefit for people. Only property brought the Patriarchy into its own. Inheritance was the key to its success, not any benefits to do with human development. If you want to know what works for humans, check what did work for humans for 50,000 years – consanguine, punuluan, syndyasmian and monogomian forms of the family that evolved through the long millennia of first the Malayan and subsequently the Turanian eras. All over the world, the same pattern of evolution, uncorrupted by property and therefore leaving the way clear for the real priority – people. When Columbus landed in Cuba, he found the people living with a very strange top priority – the raising of their children. Wot, no stealing?
The last 3,000 years is the assertion of the Aryan, Semitic and Uralian common system of family – our old friend, the hetero-patriarchal exclusive monogamy. Or just plain “family” as we have been trained to think of it. This system is very successful in the one crucial respect of ensuring the father can identify the heirs to what he thinks of as his property. Or, more accurately, the dubious privilege that he has acquired by murder and theft from his neighbour. The thief is, of course, disinheriting his neighbour’s children.
In all other respects apart from passing down stolen property, the patriarchal system fails – it fails women, children and even men, who it denies the chance of real human contact. The man may not be aware of what he is missing but real human contact defines the thing called life. Try enjoying yourself without it.
As women fight their way free from 3,000 years of imprisonment, we already see the return to alternative forms of family as they re-appear naturally – as outlined above with the example of single women’s hostels – where co-operation between women on child-care frees up time for women to do other things – work, creativity, enjoyment, life. We arrive back at the consanguine traditions of the hugely prolonged Turanian era. Finally free to redefine the relation between people and property and this time to re-assert people above property, not the other way round. Invert the principle, everything changes.
The future primitive is the one who rediscovers the security of the extended family – secure in numbers, in self-sufficiency and in self-defence. Not limited and overloaded by the tiny environment of the atomised nuclear family. Not dependent on the low pay and dirty “jobs” of people remote and unknown. Not fighting wars to protect the property of strangers.
It has never been appropriate to kill for obscure motives like protecting the undefined “National Security Interests” of the secretive state, or killing families because they may not agree with the Church.