A zoologist friend of mine once opened my mind to the fact that our deep ancestry was one gender – female, the XX chromosome pair – and that only later did the XY chromosome appear to yield a female of altered sexuality, called a male. A male is thus an altered form of female. The distribution pattern of human sexuality evolved from a single peak of more or less female to a dual peak of male and female joined in the middle by hermaphrodites who are born with mixed forms of genitals so that they can neither be truly characterised as male or female.
The reason why the single sex (female) distribution evolved into the dual sex (male/female) distribution pattern is Natural Selection. Random pairings produce more diverse progeny than single-sex reproduction. This greater diversity creates more variations which can therefore survive and progress in any one of the many different niches offered by nature in the race to evolve into the opportunity gap.
But we can therefore see from this history that human sexuality is a continuum. The distribution pattern of sexuality is not two mutually exclusive and narrowly defined peaks, one called male and the other female. The truth is that all forms are a normal part of what is a continuum. You could place everyone in the world along a continuous line of gradually changing sexuality.
In the blue corner, Lasha Talakhadze, 27 stone world super-heavyweight lifting champion. And in the red corner the universal icon of female loveliness Marilyn Monroe. For poor Marilyn, the pressure of being so radically, utterly and exclusively female brought untold pressures and made her identity a little difficult to live with. However beautiful she may have been as a female she was an extreme of sexuality and such imbalance is bound to have consequences. Goodbye Norma Jean.
To insist that maleness and femaleness are two separate things is an act of denial – it denies our historical evolution and our current being. To deny the reality of nature creates dysfunction in the idea of being either exclusively heterosexual or homosexual or orgiasticly polygamous or fundamentally monogamous. Again, diversity provides the key to this – we are all simply just plain sexual, or sometimes not. The different types of sexuality are within every single one of us whether we choose to express, explore or deny. Choice is to be respected. But potential is not to be denied.
A Bonobo chimp is genetically 98% human and is a snapshot of our past. Again, as we have seen already with family structures, our own past is alive in somebody else’s present. They may be able to eliminate the records of the past but, to the eternal frustration of Imperialists, they can never eliminate the entire present. Bonobo chimps are as we were. They use sex as a form of greeting – males with females, males with males, grandparents with teenagers (their age of consent is much lower than ours), masturbation etc. The only sexual taboo among the Bonobos is between mother and son more than six years old which even those dumb monkeys have realised creates breeding defects. But however dumb they may appear they’re smarter than us because they haven’t learned how to deny themselves yet.
We must unchain ourselves from the Christian sexual ethic and allow our sexuality to express itself as nature intended. Our body is ours and ours alone and nobody can tell us that any form of informed consenting sex isn’t allowed.